I recently heard this quote from Marjorie Hinckley that said, "Whenever possible say yes, they are only kids once!"
This has been my recent goal. Because I can't tell you how many times I hear "Mom can I (fill in the blank)?" and my initial response is "No! Not right now!"
I've decided to let go of the little things they constantly ask me throughout the day.
"Yes! You can sharpen that pencil!" (even though it's already sharp enough to hurt someone.)
"Sure you can wear your goggles to the store!" (even though I know I'll get looks.)
"Yes you can open the backyard gate as many times as you want!" (even though I jump every time it slams shut.)
"Yeah you can spread the peanut butter on your sandwich!" (even though it ends up more on your shirt than your bread.)
Why do I care so much?? These things are so trivial. My children just want to explore, learn, and try. And I don't want to stifle their confidence. They just want some control and there are plenty of opportunities for me to grant it.
Then, the times when I do say "no," my children will hopefully understand there is a clear reason behind it.